BDSM / FOR ADULTS
BDSM resources for adults, with notes on consent, boundaries, and communication. Take time to discuss what you each want and what you are comfortable with.
Adults only · Respect each other’s wishes · Stop at any time
01 / OUR PRINCIPLES
Whatever your role, you have an equal say in what happens.
Everyone needs to understand the activity and freely agree to it, with consent throughout. Silence, a past agreement, or being in a relationship does not mean someone agrees now. Anyone can change their mind at any time.
You can always say no.Before an activity, discuss what each person is comfortable with and agree on how to pause or stop. A role, label, or completed worksheet does not give permission. Stop if anyone withdraws consent or cannot communicate their wishes.
Agree on how to stop before you start.Talk beforehand about risks, privacy, and the support each person needs before and after an activity. Ask how they feel without pressuring them to continue. Consent and preparation do not remove every risk or guarantee that an activity is lawful.
Leave time to check in afterward.02 / RESOURCES
Use the worksheet to help with a conversation. It cannot replace consent, professional assessment, or a full safety guide.
03 / SITE GUIDELINES
Who can use this site, how its resources may be used, and how to contact us.
Read the legal referencesYou must be at least 18 to browse this site or download its resources. If your location sets a higher minimum age for this content, you must meet that requirement too.
This site does not offer services to users in Mainland China. If you are there, please stop using it. This is a site policy; the pages do not check your age or location.
This site shares general information for adults discussing BDSM, consent, and boundaries. It does not support coercion, exploitation, or unlawful conduct. The resources are not medical or legal advice, or instructions for carrying out an activity.
Which laws apply depends on where an activity takes place and the circumstances. Consent alone does not make an activity lawful. This notice does not waive any responsibility that the law does not allow to be waived.
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LEGAL REFERENCES
The U.S. provisions below address specific points about consent and copyright. They do not cover every legal issue, determine which laws apply to you, or establish that BDSM activities are lawful. The summaries and Chinese translations are for reference; consult the official text.
“positive cooperation in act or attitude pursuant to an exercise of free will”
Excerpt: consent involves positive cooperation through free will. This definition applies to the prosecutions specified in this California section; it is not a nationwide rule or a general defense to bodily injury.
Read official text (new tab)“to reproduce the copyrighted work in copies or phonorecords”
Excerpt: reproduction is one of a copyright owner’s exclusive rights, subject to the limitations in §§ 107–122. Finding a file online does not, by itself, grant a license to copy or redistribute it.
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